♪♫ “Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose..” - Janis Joplin
“Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ― Brene’ Brown
Is not the fear of vulnerability the major obstacle to surrendering the masks we wear and being fully genuine and transparent? We fear that if we do not have the “right answers” others will scoff and exclude us. We fear that if we do not snatch what is there for the taking we will be in want. We deny our weaknesses and conceal our attributes on grounds we fear them being exploited. We fear that if we follow our heart and do that which we are best suited for we will lose out on the passing fad – if the band-wagon everyone is jumping on leaves town we will be left all alone. We fear that if we are generous we will not be able to meet our own needs but if we don’t make displays of generosity we will be considered miserly. We fear change because we don’t know if we will be deemed adequate at the same time we complain about the way things are. We piously trumpet our victories – of course subtly with displays of fake modesty while we go to painstakingly hide our short-comings with displays of false bravado. And so we cling – we cling to “stuff,” we are miserly with our love, we are not genuine about the true nature of our journey and we desperately cling to the way things are. And ultimately we do this all because we fear the shame that we would face if we found ourselves abandoned and in want.
And so this fear of others emotionally or materially compromising us cripples as we squander our credibility one small deception at a time. These masks become so entangled that we end up with no idea of who and what we are. But we forget that in order to be vulnerable we must have something to lose. If we realize that we never truly own anything but are simply stewards of what we have we live in gratitude of what is and do not want for anything. When we become attuned to the emotional and physical needs of others they become aware of our own needs as well – there is no “face” or “pride” to lose. The excuse of not surrendering to the realities of this moment and the human condition we share with others is but another illusion that conspires to keep us in ignorance. Because truth and power can only flow through when we are genuine – when we surrender, become legitimate and allow our own humanity. The reality is that we have nothing to lose but the opportunity – the opportunity to surrender, make ourselves vulnerable and gain the world.
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