Want to feel 50% lighter? Meditation for 5/14/14

Isle of Hope; Ga

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“Regret for the past is a waste of spirit.”  - Bill Wilson

“It is the confession, not the priest, which gives absolution.”  -  Oscar Wilde

     We can only dwell in our spirit and have the opportunity to know God in this moment, fully present and aware.  There are many things that can keep us from being fully present for our lives, and two of the major ones are guilt and shame.  I define guilt as remorse for things I did (and shouldn’t have) or for what I am and shame for things that I didn’t do (and should have) or for what I am not.  Guilt is for what is and shame is for what isn’t.  There is a way to be rid of these, and when the pain gets bad enough we will find the courage to begin.  Once rid of a couple and feeling the relief, more are desired because there is no feeling like freedom from bondage.  Here is a basic outline of an approach that works.

     It is important to write these things down, because something happens between pens and paper that does not happen when just thinking things or saying them.  If you are suffering from more than one that is dragging you down, try to identify them all at once.  First, identify who you harmed.    Then identify clearly what you did.  Next, identify the part of self that caused the damage.  Was it fear of loss?  Fear of failure?  Sexual instinct?  Etc.   Next, write down what harm did it do to the other(s).  Did it cause jealousy, anger, fear, etc?  Did it cause lost opportunities or undue stress?  What should have been done instead?  Next, write down where selfishness, dishonesty, fear and inconsideration played into the scenario.  If this is done honestly, then there is just one more step.  Find a trusted other person and admit it fully – the whole thing to them.  Honestly look at what amends should or could be made.  Then, approach the person(s) harmed and make the amends.  “I am sorry” is just hot air.  Amends count.  But remember that ultimately the process of doing this is about us – not the other person.  If we want to be free of our self-constructed prison cells, we can be.  It just takes overcoming fear and taking the proper positive action.  We are then free of another bit of self denial, and further along the road to loving ourselves.

Today, may I remember that guilt is the primary source of sorrow.

Happy Wednesday !!
David

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