Murrell's Inlet; SC
“Change itself is
easy, its resistance to change that causes pain.” - Seneca
“Any change, even a
change for the better, is accompanied by setbacks and discomforts.” - Arnold Bennett
We have all been motivated to make major
changes, say at New Years or perhaps after some pain made it clear that we
needed some adjustment and launched on a rigorous course of action. So often though in short order we are back
right where we started – doing or not doing what has been ingrained from years
of use or disuse.
How do we make lasting changes? The mental illustration of a large ship reversing
direction at sea can help. There is vast
momentum moving in a particular direction, and capsizing will happen if a
turn-about is attempted too quickly. It must
be turned bit by bit, a degree at a time.
A complete turn-around is 180 degrees, and not one of them can be
skipped. But soon, without being obvious and without
losing momentum, the ship is heading in a completely different direction.
If we make small adjustments towards goals
over a period of time each has a chance to become ingrained as we attempt
further adjustments. Instead of saying
we are going on a diet, how about cutting out one fatty food and not replacing
it with something else? Instead of
saying I am going to spend more time with my family, how about planning just
one regular activity for right now that we will not miss? Making vast sweeping statements about changes
that I am going to make has never served me well in life. The lasting changes have been made bit by
bit, adjustment by adjustment, just today, one day at a time. Otherwise,
I am soon discouraged and fully back into the behavior I am comfortable with
from years of reinforcement.
Today, may I find
the courage to continue changing the things I can.
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