“Envy is as evil as
arrogance.” - Eleanor Roosevelt
“Ultimately, love is
self-approval.” - Sondra Ray
If we have not
resolved our issues of past and future (resentment, guilt, shame and fear) it is impossible for us to become
fully present in the moment. The primary
thing that blocks us is ceaseless and crippling negative judgment of
others. We are the only basis of
comparison when we deal with other people.
Using this reference point we then see mirrors of what we like and
dislike in ourselves in others. So, when
we have not resolved our basic issues of ego, we walk around in a world that is
filled with reminders of unaddressed defects within ourselves. No sooner do we start to get a seconds rest
from our ego by becoming present in the current moment than our issues
resurface and we are forced to rationalize them by either cutting down someone
else or falling into self-pity about some excuse (usually victimhood mentality)
as to why we are not able to “measure up” to what we suppose we are supposed to
be. In a flash we are back into the past
with its regrets or self-congratulations – gone from this moment, and again
back in a fantasy world we call our “life.”
This is one problem we can make progress on
even before we have fully resolved our issues.
We can begin to view others with the idea in mind that everyone is doing
the best they can with what they have to work with. If they could do better they would. This brings a bit of empathy and compassion
into the mixture. We can stop trying to
compare others outsides to our insides – and we can give up trying to figure
out what other people are thinking. Another
thing we can do is realize that all of the spiritual giants come to the
realization that we are all different manifestations of the same thing – I am
you and you are me. Although we have
much work ahead of us if we are to realize this unity, we can at least begin
working toward it. One thing for sure –
unity in its true form precludes judgmentalism.
Once we realize that our harsh judgments
of others are rooted in ourselves, we can begin to use the occasions that we
find ourselves judging people as opportunities to recognize and root out our
defects. We need to lighten our load –
we are not designed to carry these tons of mental, emotional and spiritual trash
around with us. Something is going to
give – and maybe, just maybe, for once we can start doing the work before
things reach crisis proportions. We do
the work and we can start to live our lives rather than be nothing but a
puppet yanked around by our ego. And as
a bonus, we will start to not only see ourselves in others, but begin to see a
few glimpses of the divine that dwells in us all.
Today, may I do the
work.
Have a great Monday!!
David
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