Savannah GA and Hilton Head SC, both taken at sunset tonight from Daufuskie Island
“Guilt has quick ears to an
accusation.” - Henry Fielding
“Facts do not cease to exist because
they are ignored.” - Aldous Huxley
We all have made a suggestion before to someone who
is dealing with a problem, and people usually take the suggestion or leave
it. But if a person is unwilling to face
the problem they are actually dealing with – if their identity is tied up in
the fact that the core problem cannot be the problem – we witness a violent
reaction. Like the alcoholic who refuses
to see the central problem and spends much time and effort addressing symptoms
or blaming circumstances, it can be painful to watch someone avoiding an issue
that could be resolved if they would just be willing to acknowledge and address
the true problem rather than symptoms of it.
We cannot be of use to people in this state until they are in enough
pain that they are willing to face the underlying issue, but we sure can learn
some lessons for our own use.
If we receive a suggestion, hear a comment that something is true or are
criticized we typically consider it and either incorporate it or let it roll
off of our back. But what of the things
we hear that we find ourselves responding quickly and over-emotionally to? Just as the fact that the behaviors in others
that bother us the most are usually ones we secretly harbor, that which brings us quick anger points the
way to our deepest self-ishness – fears, pride, etc. It is a spiritual fact that every time we
become irritated, angry or disturbed the problem lies within us because only we
can create disturbances within ourselves.
In the long run, it saves us much grief in life to review immediately
those things that disturb us. Each one
we identify and root out is one more thing that can’t sabotage us again. The alternative is to continue to be
vulnerable to circumstances defining us – our state of mind being tossed about
to and fro and at the mercy of other’s accusations and life’s
circumstances. Yes, we need to pause
whenever we find ourselves agitated, but we need to utilize the pause to
pinpoint what anxiety within us causes us to be disturbed. With each correction we make there is one
less thing that can sabotage us again in the future. And before long, we find ourselves in
possession of a much greater degree of poise and serenity.
Today, may I recognize growth opportunity
Technical difficulties kept me from being able to post this until this morning. My apologies to those of you who count on these being there each morning. Have a great Thursday anyway !!
David
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